"Perception is reality."
Isn't that the truth?
Well, actually it isn't, but we let it be, don't we?
If we are all being honest, "perception as reality" suits our needs much better than scrounging around for the truth. Especially when it comes to our acquaintances, friends, family and the multitudes we run across, daily. If we just take what we see as accepted fact, it allows us to control situations and manipulate our thoughts and actions to suit us best.
Hey, just being honest.
It's why perception has worked for me in the past, at least.
If we perceive that a family member is an angry, heartless jerk, there is no need to get to know him. He makes life hard on all of us, so we can't be bothered. Or maybe they are hurting so bad they would love someone to just say hello and ask how they are.
If we perceive that a fellow mom is "perfect" because her purse is always "labeled leather" and children's hair is always hair-sprayed "just so", she must know it and be stuck up. No need to get to know her because she already thinks she is better than us.
If we perceive that our husband doesn't see all the hard work we do around the house because he doesn't mention it each night, we can resent him for not appreciating us and be semi-beastly until he acknowledges us. Never mind sitting down and telling him it's important to us that he mentions occasionally our glistening baseboards.
If we perceive that someone is busy and confident, we assume they have it all together, millions of contacts and don't have a need for anyone to reach out to them. Never mind that this too might be an allusion we have conjured up ourselves and not actual reality.
If we perceive that because someone has bratty/unruly children that they are lazy and incompetent than what's the point in getting to know her-you can't let her kids around yours anyways! Yikes! It couldn't be that she is extremely overwhelmed, tired and frustrated and maybe just needs a helping hand, once in awhile.
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It's amazing how perception really plays into our personal hand. It makes life easier, allows us to dwell on the negative things we would like to and inject our own opinion as truth....ultimately creating a fake world.
Perception ISN'T reality....REALITY is.
Let's challenge ourselves to examine how people are really doing, what they are really thinking and how they are really feeling.
Life will become much less blurry and scattered.
Much more genuine and real.
